Monday, February 8, 2010

The Pros And Cons: Making Them Work For You






You have a good idea of what the pros and the cons of online dating are right? 

Pros:

You get to meet others from around the world when it is convenient to you.

You get to find that right person for you without having to deal with the bar scene or with blind dates.

The pressure is lower as emails are easier than phone calls.

You can find people online that are just like you, that already possess the qualities that you are after.  No more dealing with situations where you meet people that are no where near someone you are interested in.

You get to handle online dating the way that you want to.

It’s safer.

There are more possibilities.

Those are just a few of the benefits that are out there when it comes to online dating.  Yet, there are some things that are not necessarily good things.

Cons:

You are not seeing these individuals in person for the first time.

You may not be able to meet them locally for a while if they do not live near you.

You have to count on what they tell you or provide about them in their profile is actually true.

It’s scary to take that first step.

You have to pay for a membership to meet others.

Those are just a few of the different cons that you may be facing.  Of course, you should take into consideration the fact that your potential cons are not listed here.  Nevertheless, our next tip is what will help you to get the most out of online dating.



Analyzing The Good And The Bad

Each time that there is a negative comment in your mind about online dating, figure out the benefits it can offer.

For example, one of the problems that many have is paying for a membership.  While no one likes doing that, think about it this way.  If you pay for a membership, you don’t have to pay for all of those drinks or dinners with others that are people you didn’t want to meet.  It is more affordable, actually, to work with people that you have already determined are right for you.

Another thing people say about online dating is that they just don’t want to take that first step and contact the other person.  No problem.  Later on, we will dedicate a chapter to learning how to converse with others for the first time.  And, we will show you how you can actually make this something that is beneficial to you.

There are many benefits to online dating.  There are plenty of opportunities for you to find the right person out there.  Yet, you can sit there and worry about it, or just get out there and do it.

If you want to find success in online dating, you need to commit to doing it.  We will show you how to do that, but remember that it is a package deal.  You can not benefit all that you should benefit from just one tip.  Putting it all together is what will make online dating a true success for you.

So, where does that leave us?

Your first step is to commit to online dating.  It is fine to give yourself a time limit, if in fact it is a long enough one, to find the answers to your questions and to give online dating a try.  Yet, if you do this, we want you to make a commitment to do it with all of your heart and truly dedicate time to the process.  Only when you do this will you find the best possible benefits.