Who are you kidding! If you want to be successful with online dating, you have to make the first move, no matter who you are, girl or boy!
After you have found a few people to contact, you will want to write out that first email. Of course, you could instant message them, but that puts you and them more on the spot and may not be as wise of a choice at this point.
Instead, craft an email. There are several tips to making that email effective. First off, take the time to read through this as you will find there are a number of mistakes that you can make!
Email tips include these:
• In your email, make sure you provide your name and where you found their profile.
• Keep the tone of the email upbeat and interesting, not dull and boring.
• A quick note is fine as long as it begins a conversation and is not just, “I saw your profile, email me.” This will not work.
One thing to keep in mind in the content of the email you send is just what you will say. You should introduce yourself and provide some information about you. Tell them your name, your age and things about who you are. You can tell them such things as your interests and your characteristics.
Do not bore them, but provide them with some information so that they can begin to build a bit more of an idea of who you are. You want them to be able to remember you from one email to the next one that you send. Give them something to think about!
Next, make sure that you provide some comments about their profile. You can say that you say that they liked to hang out at the beach. Perhaps this is something that you share in common and therefore you can share that.
Find some common connection between their profile and your interests. When you do that, you form a bond with them that can grow into something much more positive. It helps to develop a conversation which is something you have to have to get a response from them.
Finally, make sure to include in your email a few questions to get the conversation going. Keep this to about two to three but make sure they are on different subjects. You can ask them about their day to day life, about their pets, about the places that they grew up that you remember…whatever you can find to again, link you with them.
By doing this it will allow you to do one thing perfectly. That is, it will allow you to develop a relationship with them even at a very basic level. They will now have something to say back to you and things can begin to roll nicely.
That first email is worrisome, but once it gets out, things will begin to roll from there.
