If you register with an online dating website that has several thousand different users on it, what are your chances of standing out? What are the chances that you will actually have people emailing to talk to you?
There are two things to think about here.
1. What can you do to get others to find you in the most effective manner?
2. How can you find others and contact them to get things started?
Before you worry about how you can do this, it is very important for you just to remember your goals. You decided to commit to online dating and in the next sections we have some tips that may be a bit drawn out but that will help you to find just the right people for you to start to get to know and really match up with.
Step 1: How They Will Find You
The first thing that you need to do is to determine how you can make other online dating users find you. Remember, this is a two step process that can not be minimized in just doing one or the other of these. If you truly want to succeed, these rules are necessary to follow.
One of the big aspects of this process you have already completed. That is that you have designed a profile that is perfect for those that are looking for you.
Your profile should:
• Depict you in your normal life and be honest to who you are.
• Provide an inside view as to who you actually are as well as what is important to you.
• Should be positive and allow you to come out looking interesting and someone fun to be with.
The next element is to insure that the words that you use within the profile are going to help to attract people to you. To do this, consider doing the following things.
First, make sure to add in the words that you would search for when looking for someone to date in the online dating world. Most of the online dating communities will have search features where individuals will type in certain things to find the person that they are interested in.
This can include such things as age, religion, and areas, but it is also going to include some pretty important other words. Remember, whatever words you would use to find someone else are those that you want to use in your profile.
When an individual is looking for you, they will type in these words into the search field. If they are in your profile, guess who will show up as a possible person that they will match with?
YOU!
This method will enhance how many people that are looking for the qualities that you possess to actually find you. If you just put in the average thing, you are less likely to be found in all of those millions of people. As frustrating as that sounds, it’s just the way that the system works. Luckily for you, we have shown you how to improve your odds in the online dating world.
The more unique words and interesting things you add to your profile, the better. The more details you provide the better. Yet, do not go overboard in describing everything about you.
Step 2: Finding Those You Are Interested In
Don’t run, you have to take this step too. Again, the odds are that you will need to do whatever it takes to contact and work with someone that is interested in finding you. You will have to make that first move and make it happen.
Yet, it does not have to be too hard or even difficult at all to do this. Email makes the whole process easier.
Throughout this part of the process, you are looking for the right way to communicate with someone that is interesting to you. They have no reason to sit there and to wait for someone to find you.
Important Trick:
Be the person that you are to your best friend when contacting someone else. Don’t wait until they come to you. They are too worried to take this first step too.
Now, the first thing you need to do here is to find others that are potentially interesting people. What do you look for in an online profile? Well, we just went through an entire chapter about how to write a winning profile. Now, you need to reverse it.
Again, you can use the searches that are provided for through the online service if you like. Look for unique characteristics to look for. Instead of saying you are looking for someone that is smart, find someone that has a college degree or someone that likes to read. Keep in mind that too many specific things can keep you from meeting many people that could fit within your life very nicely.
You need to insure that you are scanning through profiles carefully. Again, positive people that have a great profile are the ones to go to. Why? They have taken the time and committed at least a few minutes to developing a profile that is interesting. In other words, they are at least somewhat interested in online dating.
You should read through their profile and then decide if they are someone that you would be interested in.
When you find someone that sounds interesting, stop for a minute and ask yourself if you could see yourself with this person, really. There is no sense in wasting your time on someone that you won’t like for a major reason. Yet, if you are not sure, they are worth contacting.
Yes, contacting. In the next chapter, we help you with writing that first email.
